there’s a piece of truth about how this world works that your parents and teachers never bothered to tell you.and maybe, a part of you probably doesn't want to hear it.you’ve been told that hard work is what determines success in the game of life.that if you keep your head down, do your job, be a good person, things eventually “work out."now, while that’s somewhat true, it’s not the only thing that determines success in the game of life.that’s why you watch people less capable than you end up above you.you can be smarter. you can be more talented. doesn’t matter.if you're not charismatic, you’re going to lose in life to people that don’t deserve to be beating you.it isn’t fair, but deep down we all know that this is actually how the world works.
have you ever experienced a moment where you’re sitting with people you know, and still feel lonely. like you’re there, but nobody is with you.or you tell a story at dinner and people start losing interest halfway, so you speed up and end it early.or you have a brilliant idea in a team meeting, but your heart rate spikes before speaking, so you swallow it, then spend the rest of the day angry at yourself.can you calculate what these moments might have costed you?a friend? a partner? a promotion? a bad haircut? an adventure? a big round of applause?we’ve all been there. every single person i’ve ever met has been there.but most people don't stay there.they felt that sting of worthlessness once, maybe twice, and chose to do something about it.but you're still there. and it's the reason you're unnecessarily living a punishing & difficult life.
trying to become charismatic can ruin your life."wait, what the fuck uncle charisma???"holddd up, i'll explain.you've probably seen it too.that guy who watches “alpha body language” tips from youtube, then sits at dinner puffed up like a cartoon villain, and ruins the vibe for everyone.that guy who was told that "charismatic people use their hands when they talk", so he keeps tapping people’s shoulders mid conversation, and you can see them subtly moving their chairs away.that guy who practices smirking in the mirror because he saw ryan gosling do it, and now he smiles with only one side of his mouth and looks like he's constipated.you know what i mean. if you've been around these people, you'll know how existentially annoying they are.
fuck social anxiety .